That is a question Ade and I had to sit down and discuss with the boys. It’s a topic I personally have been avoiding for some time. While I know they are exposed to many things that we were not growing up, it’s not a talk I looked forward to having. And of course, they knew exactly what it meant.
The talk came up because of something that Caleb said in school to another student. I won’t go into details as to keep some family matters private. But with all the kids being bullied in school and either dying from the injuries or committing suicide, we had to have a serious discussion with them about life and how to deal with peer pressure. Boys will usually want to be known for being cool and funny. It’s not cool to be smart and kind, and we noticed that Caleb was falling into a crowd that had him making some choices that were not pleasing to us.
It is so hard navigating this parenting thing at times and trying to instill confidence in them so that they know they are to be leaders and not followers. I know we drill many things into their heads at home, but as soon as they get on the school bus, the influence of their friends will take over. Picking on kids, cracking jokes, will sometimes trump what is the right thing to do. While I was severely disappointed in the choices that were made, it gave us an opportunity to have a very open and honest discussion with them about many things. While I know I can be strict with them at times, I also want the lines of communication to be so open that they feel comfortable talking to us about absolutely anything. Including questions about sex, their bodies, ANYTHING!
What is the latest obstacle you all have been facing in your parenting journey? With Mother’s Day right around the corner, I am sending you all love, light, and strength. People used to tell me all the time that it will get easier as they get older and I have to say that I disagree with that. As Caleb & Joshua are getting older, each stage comes with a new set of challenges. I didn’t think I would be dealing with peer pressure for them at this age, what will happen when they get to high school?
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